Boss Babe or Hot Mess?

In the hustle and bustle of life, stress can often become an unwelcome companion, leading to overwhelming feelings that can take a toll on your mental and physical well-being. These two things, stress & overwhelm, can often go hand-in-hand, often starting with a lot of stress that goes untreated, which can then lead to a considerable amount of overwhelm and burnout.

 

While this is very common, it can also be disastrous for your mental and physical state. Luckily, there are some ways you can manage and reduce both stress and overwhelm to get your life back and start living again.

 

There has been a lot of pressure for women to provide for themselves and to be their own “Boss Babe”, which can feel really empowering, but also can cause burnout if we neglect our true needs in order to keep up with the hustle and grind.

Accept What Stress is and That it Can’t Be Avoided

The first part of dealing with the amount of stress you have is accepting what it is. You are not accepting that you will always have stress, but more about understanding what stress is so you can better prepare yourself for ways to relieve it. You need to identify your stress, define it, and realize that it is not something you did wrong. If you focus too much on the stress overwhelming you, you are only releasing more of the stress hormone, which is going to make it feel a lot worse than it could be.

Start assigning a name to your stress, understand that it is from situations in your life that couldn’t be avoided, then look to the other ways of reducing it. This can help a lot with your mindset and how you react to stressful situations.

Find Moments to Calm Your Mind and Body

Both your mind and body go through the ringer when you have stress, so you need to focus on calming both your mind and body. Sometimes, this means just taking a minute to practice deep breathing, while in other cases, you have a little more time to focus on meditating or practicing mindfulness. You need these extra moments throughout the day that will help you deal with stressful situations as they arise, in order to prevent it from getting worse and leading to being completely overwhelmed.

Think About the Situation Differently

If there is a particular stressful situation that you can feel taking over your thoughts and emotions, try to think of it in a different way. Stand outside the problem and put aside your own feelings about it and how it is negatively affecting your life. Just for a moment, look at it from a completely different angle.

Does it look any different? Can you find a way to be positive or optimistic? At the very least, is it helping to teach you a lesson?

There are few things in life that are not going to teach you something or provide more than one way to look at it, if you can take a step back and let yourself do that.

Get Outside to Regroup Mentally

Time to regroup! Give yourself a break whenever you can, go outside or to a different environment, and just appreciate your new surroundings. Having stress at work? Go outside during your break, take a walk, or just head to lunch with some friends to destress.

Is the stress at home? Give yourself a few minutes to be outside in your garden, go for a drive, or walk to a nearby park. The energy is different outside. You have fresh air, sunshine, new sounds and smells, new senses that develop. This alone can be really therapeutic for you.

Make Sure You Have Realistic Goals

If your stress and overwhelm is related to your goals and the process to achieve them, then you might want to think about what your goals are and whether or not they are realistic. It is great to have big dreams, but if they are a little out of reach, failing to reach them is only going to become a burden for you.

Try to use the SMART method of creating goals, which includes making sure they are specific, measurable, achievable and realistic, and timely. This can help set you up for success, not for stress due to your failure. Remember to include how you want to feel and what you want to experience with each of your goals.

Prioritize Yourself

Amidst the myriad responsibilities and demands of life, it is crucial to intentionally prioritize yourself. Recognize that your well-being is not a luxury but a necessity. Taking time for self-care, setting boundaries, and addressing your needs are paramount in navigating stress and overwhelm. By making your mental and physical health a priority, you empower yourself to face challenges with resilience and grace. Remember, in the pursuit of a balanced and fulfilling life, your own well-being deserves a place at the top of your priority list.

Lean on People When Needed

Finally, don’t be afraid to reach out to people you know and lean on them when you need to or hire a coach if you are looking for more expert guidance. Nobody can accomplish anything completely alone, and sometimes you need help, reassurance, and support. Find people who you know and trust that understand what you are going through and are going to relieve your stress, instead of adding more burden to your life.

To be super successful AND feel nourished, remember to come back to the above tips. Maybe being a “Boss Babe” isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, and maybe we can be “Nourished and Fulfilled Babe” instead.

 

For extra support in operating your life in a sustainable way, and to have the energy and clarity you need, please apply to work with me to receive custom support for your body and life.

Dr. Alicia Newsome

Hi, I am Dr. Alicia Newsome

As a doctor, trainer, keynote speaker & executive health coach, I help high-achievers reclaim their lives by helping them understand and work with their bodies’ hormones, digestion, and metabolism.
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